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Friday, December 31, 2010


 Pain in the present is experienced as hurt. 

Pain in the past is remembered as anger.

Pain in the future is perceived as anxiety.

Unexpressed anger, redirected against yourself and held 

within, is called guilt.

The depletion of energy that occurs when anger is 

redirected inward creates depression.

Wednesday, December 22, 2010

My Books by Torkom Saraydarian

My books
are not sheets of papers
with prints
and diagrams
and numbers.

My books are
energy waves,

They are visions
and roaring
and rivers and rapids.

My books are not written
on sheets of paper,
they are frequencies
in Space.

The forms of my books
may perish
but the Spirit
will live forever
traveling with spirals
of visions. 

It is not the pages,
and words that
are important,
but the target,
the significance
they reveal
in the souls
of readers.

They carry you
from the unreal
to the real,
from your not-self
to your Self,
from your Self
to the All-Self. 

Each book is a
stepping stone.
They do not move
under your feet
but they will help you
to move toward the All-Self.

If you hate
or love the book,
you cannot move on. 

My books are not intended
to make you
a learned person,
but intended
to make you
actualize the greatness
that is within you. 

On every page
of my books,
you will meet yourself
and demand that
you transcend yourself.

by transcending yourself,
you will fulfill
the purpose
of your life.

My books
are whispers
from your soul
to your ears

- A Poem written by Torkom on July 8, 1993

Monday, December 13, 2010

Experience - Real Experience

“Experience is not what happens to a man. It is what a man does with what happens to him.” 

Experience means to come face to face with reality on the level where you are.

Experience means to understand the course of the event and the effect of the event on you and your environment.

Higher experiences are collaborations of experiences in the past and present. Higher experiences are buried experiences within us which do not have interpretations.

Experiences have many levels and we can give them various names to differentiate them.

1. Accidents, mechanical experiences.
2. Events which are the result of our stupidity.
3. Painful experiences.
4. Pleasant experiences.
5. Uplifting, enlightening experiences.
6. Experiences of contact with reality.

7. Experience of achievement.

Accidents, mechanical experiences: An incident turns into experience when a lesson is learnt from it.

Events which are the result of our stupidity: we experience the result of our stupidity then the event becomes the result of what we had planted unconsciously.

Painful experiences: Painful experiences occur when we lose a great friend or a relative or when we are involved with a friend who is full of ego, vanity and spirit of condemnation.

We would prefer experiences that are not harmful but increase the wisdom we need to help others.

Pleasant experiences: Any true experience is a reaffirmation of the reality of the experience by the corresponding inner reality.

Uplifting, enlightening experiences: an event is an unfolding, enlightening and uplifting experience when you assimilate the energy, light and revelation hidden in the experience and then transform yourself.

Experiences are given in many forms: for example;

· Experiences in color
· Experiences in sound
· Experiences in rhythm and motion
· Experiences in fragrance
· Experiences in beauty
· Experiences in joy
· Experiences in freedom

Experiences of contact with reality: Experience of contact with reality are experiences related to the contacts of your inner core, with the hierarchy and with higher beings.

Experience of achievement: Experience of achievement are when you realize that you are functioning on higher plane with a higher body. When you see that you are able to wield energy and use it for a purpose; when you have experience of expansion of consciousness, inclusiveness, utter humility.

Discrimination between experiences makes a great difference in saving time, energy, money, or in losing such sources of future service.

An experience can be pleasant now but in the future it can cause pain.
An experience can be painful now but it can into a joy into a future.
An experience can be joyful now, and remain joyful forever.

We must try to have experiences that at least bring us joy in the future, or remain joyful forever.

So, we have 3 factors that lead us to real experience.

1. The ability to see the laws and principles behind and in the event.
2. Confirmation from your soul that what you see corresponds to an inner realization.
3. Seeing the result and confirming it as experience.

People on earth do not have real experiences; that is why things repeat in their life over and over again. The signs of real experiences are:

1. That unpleasant, harmful, limiting events never repeat themselves.
2. That pleasant, releasing, joyful, healing, expanding events rhythmically repeat in our lives.

Real experience must teach us what principles and laws to use to avoid unpleasant and limiting events and to increase the pleasant and expanding events.

A true experience is a reaffirmation of the discovered principles and laws by inner, existing principles and laws. One does not need to cut his head to have an experience of how one feels in cutting his head.

Experience is not a collection of feelings, sensations, pain and suffering, or pleasures, but it is the realization of the laws and principles of life in general.

For example, if you touch a flame and burn your finger, you will never try to touch the flame again. But if you touch the flame for the second time, you never had an experience with the flame.

People often ask how one learns without having an experience? The answer is that you will never learn if you do not have a true experience.

An experience is direct contact between the causes, laws, and principles and the corresponding laws, principles, and causes existing within you.

You can see that most people use the word experience in a wrong way. An experience is an extension of your inner reality and its fusion with the similar outer reality.

A true experience is one that teaches you a principle, a law, a fact, a weakness that you have, a virtue that you have, a revelation through which you expand your consciousness or see the true nature of certain events and their causes.

Experience can be etheric, astral, mental, which can be synthesized in the etheric centres.

Tuesday, December 7, 2010

Books as Teachers

It is not essential to find a teacher in the flesh - he may be in print. A book may become a quite effective teacher and guide.

In the absence of a sage's personal society, one may have recourse to the best substitute - a sage's printed writings.

Inspired texts, portions of scriptures, great men's writings and sayings offer guidance on the course of action to be followed, the ethical considerations to be heeded, the decisions to be made under certain pressures, crises, or confrontations - decisions whose consequences are often quite grave. Who can price the value of such readings at such times?

Books are most useful to those who, whether by necessity through lack of sincere competent instruction or by choice, to avoid narrow sectarianism, seek the goal by themselves.

Most students seeking inspiration have no other choice than recourse to the printed words.

The personal contact with a master does not necessarily require a face-to-face meeting. It can also be effected through a letter written by him - nay, to some degree, even through a book written by him. For his mind incarnates itself in these productions. Thus, those who are prevented by circumstances from meeting him physically, may meet him mentally and gain the same results.

The perspicacious student will cling steadfastly throughout his life to the writings of illumined masters, returning to them again and again.Their works are the truest of all, pure gold and not alloys.

There are men whose thought went deeper and understood more clearly than that of their fellows. Their record exists, their sayings and writings also. Their study is worthwhile, their precepts can be put to the test in practical everyday living.

In these books the voice of men who were spiritually illuminated long ago speaks to him. They are the only way in which it can speak to him today. Therefore he should respect and cherish them.

Those who have towered above all other men as Masters, who have left records of their path and of its attainment, can be good guides.

Why not make these great men your teachers through their preserved teachings? Why not be the disciple of Socrates, Buddha, Saint Paul, and dozens of others?

However distant a teacher may be, whether in country or century, by means of this written record he is able to help whoever is willing to lend his time and eyes.

If a book gives correct teaching about the quest and necessary warning about its pitfalls, it should be studied with proper care and respect.

A man can take from the printed word what he is unable to hear from the spoken word.

The truth-seeker will be wise to make use of such outward helps as appeal to him. They may be the written word, the printed book, the molded statuette, the pictorial representation, or the human photograph - always provided they are referable to a genuinely inspired source. He should study the words and works, the lives and examples of practising mystics, and follow in their footsteps.

Good books are not to be disdained, despite contemptuous references by fanatical mystics or ill-balanced ascetics. Negatively, they will warn him against misleading elements likely to cause a deviation from his correct course. Positively, they will guide him where no personal guide is available.

But he must beware of imagining that the pleasure he derives from spiritual reading is any sign that he is making progress in spiritual living. It is easier to read lofty thoughts than to think them out for oneself, and to live them is the most difficult of all.

Books, too, serve as guides if they are properly used, that is, if their limitations are recognized and if their authors' limitations are acknowledged. In the first case it is the intellect's own inability to transcend thought that stops it from realizing truth. In the second case it is the evolutionary status of the man's ego, and the accuracy of his attitudes - themselves victims or controllers of his emotions, passions - which matter. For if his mind cannot register the impact of truth, because of the blockage set up partially or even all around him, the author's work will reflect his ignorance. He cannot teach what he does not know; his own mental obscurity can lead only to the reader's obscurity. Yet such is the deceptiveness of thought, that a wrong or false idea may be received and held in the mind under the belief that it is a right or true one.

The writings of these Masters help both the moral nature and the intellectual mind of the responsive and sensitive, who are excited to the same endeavour, exhilarated to the same level, and urged to realize the same ideas. These stand out from all other writings because they contain vivid inspiration and true thought.

The very fine writings of philosophers and mystics of all times may bring into one's life some emotional inspirational and intellectual guidance, even, possibly, stimulating his power of will. Through the long, unavoidable years of struggle on the Quest, they can, to that extent, act the part of a teacher or guide. However, it must be remembered that some are infinitely more worthwhile than others, and it is essential for one to be able to discriminate between what is true and helpful and what is false and worthless.

These subjects are becoming more widely known and more studied than they were a half-century ago. There has been quite a flow of literature, original works, commentaries, and translations in our time making both mystical and philosophic ideas more available.

With the universal spread of elementary education, and the issue of cheaper paper-covered texts and translations, it is now possible for most earnest seekers living in the free countries to come into possession of the teaching.

If he cannot understand the more intellectual portions of these books he should not worry because they are written for different classes and those portions which he cannot follow are particularly addressed to highbrows and have to be expressed in a more complicated and scientific style.

If the literature on these subjects is so much larger today, the problem of choosing correctly what is most reliable is so much more difficult.

Book teaching is too general. It makes no allowance for individual differences, for the wide variation from one person to another. It is always necessary for the readers to adapt the teaching to their own sex, age, character, strength, and circumstances.

From these great writings, he will receive impulses of spiritual renewal. From these strong paragraphs and lovely words he will receive incitement to make himself better than he is. Their every page will carry a message to him; indeed, they will seem to be written for him.

Every book which stimulates aspiration and widens reflection does spiritual service and acts as a guru.

With such books he will feel for a while better than he is, wiser than he is.

One of the helps to kindle this spark into a flame is the reading of inspired literature, whether scripture or not - the mental association through books with men who have themselves been wholly possessed by this love.

A chance phrase in such an inspired writing may give a man the guidance for which he has long been waiting.

The words of inspired men are like a lighthouse to those seekers who are still groping in the dark.

Perhaps one prime value of a book is its power to remind students of fundamental principles and its ability to recall them to the leading points of this teaching, for these are easily lost or overlooked amid the press of daily business.

He will draw from such reading the incentive to keep on with his quest and the courage to set higher goals.

It may not be in the power of any piece of writing to guide a man all the way along this quest but it certainly is in its power to give him general direction and specific warning.

Let him study the literature of mystical and philosophic culture to become better informed about the Quest, about its nature and goal, and about himself.

By comparing what is described in the books with what he has so far experienced for himself, an aspirant may check and correct his course.

Those who were awakened by this reading could then look elsewhere for the personal guidance they seek.

Through a book help is given without involving the helper in the personal lives of the readers, but through a letter or a meeting involvement begins.

Friday, December 3, 2010

.......Each one does not condemn in his heart.......

What do we do actually if we really watch ourselves? We condemn each other. People are occupied eighty percent in condemning each other. “He did not do that”. “He did not come”. “He did not appear”. “He did say so”....Condemnation. If you sit down and really examine yourself, you are condemning other people. Because of your stupidity, laziness, insanity, arrogance, baseness, you start condemning others.


So in our life the most difficult thing is not to condemn with your mind and heart. You can stop condemning with your words, with your actions, but what about in your heart. You condemn and condemn. In condemning you make your mind stupid, because you hide under condemnation and do not start seeing yourself and analyzing the situation. You start hiding. You play hide and seek, instead of dealing with the problem that is within you.

When people do not condemn each other they become the people they think they are. They start thinking, analyzing, seeing, appreciating, and learning not to force each other with their personal interests.

Meditation means no condemnation in your mind.

- Torkom Saraydarian.

Wednesday, December 1, 2010

Characteristics of a Real Teacher of Wisdom

 There are a few major characteristics of a real Teacher. He gives great value to simplicity, joy, love, enthusiasm, and beingness. His expressions are clear and simple and arranged according to the level of the student. He also expects simplicity and clarity from his students as far as their thoughts, words, and expressions are concerned.


A real Teacher creates an atmosphere of joy and love in which the assimilation of knowledge becomes possible. He is always enthused with his task and the subject he is teaching. This enables the student to absorb the Teaching. He always emphasizes the application of the Teaching through which transformation of the personality and the formation of a new beingness become possible.

A real Teacher is not glamored by the knowledge or social position of the student. Knowledge can be a recorded tape, and position can be the result of karma. No matter what the student knows and what his position is, the Teacher starts with the fundamentals of beingness.

The fundamentals of beingness are:

1. application of the Teaching to life
2. manifestation of certain virtues
3. overcoming habits
4. cultivating tolerance and understanding
5. choosing the most essential
6. manifesting joy
7. living in solemnity

After one has these fundamentals, his knowledge and position can be considered as assistances in his service for humanity. If the student is ready, he will look for these qualities in the Teacher, and he will gradually notice that besides these qualities, his Teacher has another quality: the ability to create crises and tensions within the student by putting his finger on the most sensitive points of his nature. If the student can bear such a tension, he will slowly become a co-worker of his Teacher, and his Teacher will give him more daring tasks to perform.

There is another quality of a real Teacher which can be known only by advanced students. This quality can be called by various names. You may call it "abundance" or "depth." This quality shows that the Teacher is not a shallow or one-faceted being, but that he is multidimensional and his depth cannot be reached. He is always able to open new windows and doors within your being and make you meet different sides of his own being. Also, when you begin to believe that you really know him, he makes you realize that you still do not know him.

A real Teacher encourages his student to strive and choose a field of service in which to apply his wisdom, knowledge, and attainments. Once the student creates his field of service, the Teacher slowly withdraws and lets the student cope with problems and their solutions.

A real Teacher does not create followers. Once the wings of his students grow, he lets them fly away. Co-workers can be created when the Teacher lets his students work independently in their own fields.

The real Teacher never looks at his students as if they were inferior to him. He looks at them as future heroes who will engage themselves in greater labor for humanity.

A real Teacher sees his own growth in an advancing student, and a good student sees in himself the growing beauty of the vision his Teacher awakened in him.

Striving toward vision keeps the student from using his knowledge as a means of exploitation.

The Teacher provides those steps for which the heart of the student is ready. In every age, the great Teachers built the ladders of ascent toward Infinity by Their own attainments and creativity. Each Teacher is the result of the accumulated energy of past achievements and a striving toward future vision.

In teaching students, the Teacher applies a spiral method. He emphasizes the fundamentals on higher and higher spirals, sometimes giving the impression that he is repeating them. But every spiral leads the students toward Infinity. The Teacher never gives the impression that the subjects he is teaching end with what he presents. He always makes the students realize that their true work starts beyond what he gives them. In every subject he opens the door toward Infinity. No subject is a dead end; no subject is used to encourage students to apply it for superficial interests of the finite, but each subject is a guide to Infinity.

Life after life those who persist in their striving find the right Teachers, and the right Teachers express gratitude for finding the right students.

Excerpted from Challenge for Discipleship By Torkom Saraydarian.

Sunday, November 28, 2010

How can you tell if you are on the right path?

52 sign posts on the journey
You are on the right path when you:

Ask yourself the following questions and seek the answers: 

1. Who am I? Where did I come from?
2. Where will I go when I die?
3. What is my true nature?
4. Why do I think the way I do?
5. Why do I stay in pain and suffering?
6. Why am I afraid, unhappy, or angry?
7. Why do I criticize, judge, and blame others for my pain and unhappiness?
8. What can I do to become more conscious and present, and to find my true being?

Ø Understand that if you want to know the truth, you need to search and find it yourself.

Ø Search within to find your answers instead of relying on other people’s opinion for what’s right for you.

Ø Do everything possible to become more conscious of yourself.

Ø Persevere looking “in” to find your true self.

Ø See the world as a reflection of yourself.

Ø Look for the lessons you need to learn in every situation; inspite of the ups and downs of life.

Ø Refrain from blaming, criticizing, and putting others and yourself down.

Ø Refrain from nurturing ill will towards those who may seem to be “better off”, “happier”, or “wiser” than you.

Ø Choose to be positive about yourself, others, and life.

Ø Trust that existence supports you even when it does not give you what you want.

Ø Understand that life unfolds just like the opening petals of a flower, and that the present moment is the only reality you have.

Ø Understand that you don’t need to compromise your inner truth to comply with other people’s expectations.

Ø Choose not to impose your beliefs and desires on others, or allow anyone to impose their beliefs or desires on you.

Ø Surrender your Will to existence and allow it to do what it needs to do through you.

Ø Feel grateful for everything and everyone who has directly or indirectly helped you to learn and grow in consciousness.

Ø Value and appreciate your body as a gift from existence.

Ø Value and appreciate people who are sincere and honest with you.

Ø Live spontaneously and respond to life moment to moment.

Ø Trust life and know that no matter what happens, your being and everyone else’s being is always whole and healthy.

Ø Understand that no one can know you better than you can know yourself.

Ø Know that you only you are responsible for your life.

Ø Focus on finding and living your own unique gifts rather than comparing yourself to others.

Ø Understand that the only way you can know yourself is through experience, introspection, and meditation.

Ø Understand that you don’t need to be loved, recognized, or accepted by others in order to be content and live a life joyfully.

Ø Surrender to what life offers you rather than trying to control others and life.

Ø Strive living from your center instead of your ego mind.

Ø Realize that fear is your only enemy.

Ø Face your fears and act inspite of them.

Ø Take responsibility for all your actions.

Ø Don’t blame others for your pain and suffering.

Ø Don’t manipulate others to get your needs met.

Ø Don’t repress or wallow in your emotions and take responsibility for how you feel.

Ø Forgive yourself and others for your and their mistakes.

Ø Wish well for others and wish well for yourself.

Ø Value your truth and freedom more than security and life.

Ø Treat yourself and others with respect, honesty, and sincerity.

Ø Know that you are not your body, emotions, thoughts or experiences.

Ø Treat every situation as an opportunity to learn something more about yourself.

Ø Act from your heart instead of your mind.

Ø Let go of your attachment to things and people.

Ø Give yourself and others freedom to be who they truly are.

Ø Treat pain as a friend and teacher and look for its message instead of struggling with it.

Ø Live your life remembering that your journey is the goal.

Ø Enjoy walking your journey alone.

Ø Make meditation and self-observation a daily practice.

Ø Courageously face the fear of death and the unknown.

Ø Understand that no matter how hard someone tries to show you the way, you will not find the truth by following or imitating others.

Ø Do whatever it takes to find your true being.

Ø Remember that everything in life is impermanent except your being and consciousness.

Ø Welcome your inner emptiness and understand that this emptiness is a true being.

Ø Remind yourself and know that you are already a Buddha.

- Torkom Saraydarian.

Tuesday, November 23, 2010

Laws of Life

A law is the way things naturally go or should go or the way the people want them to go. If the life people create is not in harmony with the laws of nature, sooner or later, they see the laws of nature creating painful ways to make people turn to these laws for guidance. The following points are given here as seed thoughts for reflection or contemplation. Thinking on one of them and doing reflective meditation upon it will bring many blessings to your life.

1. You eventually become like those you hate and start to act as they act.

2. You hate someone because you hate things in him that are in the process of developing within you.

3. Those who have to give to others, they will have more. Those who have to have more, they will lose what they have. One must periodically empty himself to be able to be filled anew.

4. When one is empty of himself, the universe will dwell in him.

5. If you ask, the answer will be given. If you knock, people will respond. If you search, things will come your way.

6. Those who spread dirt eventually find it as their nourishment.

7. Those who waste your offerings will also make themselves indebted to the creator.

8. Your emotional body is the result of your words, imagination, and emotional reactions.

9. Your mental body is the result of your thoughts, visualization, or vanity and ego.

10. Beauty evokes seeds of beauty latent in you.


12. No one can change things for the better or cause transformation unless he exists or obeys one who exists.

13. There is the law of opposites. Light evokes darkness, darkness evokes light.

14. There is the law of substitution by which you are allowed to pay the debts of others.

15. Your payment for others becomes your savings.

16. Those whose debt is paid help you for your future achievements.

17. Only after you empty yourself can you be filled.

18. Success is the result of the exhaustion of Karma.

19. Conscious suffering removes a great amount of Karma.

20. Accumulated unconscious impressions create pressure within us. One of nature’s ways to make you conscious of them is to see them in others.

21. We are afraid of people whom we hate.

22. We hate because we feel insecure.

23. Racism and nationalism are the result of fear and insecurity.

24. Bigots and fanatics are those who had extreme fear in the past.

25. Harmlessness leads to freedom from any limitation.

26. No value can exist until it is realized and manifested.

27. No value can be realized unless vehicles to realize that value are built or created.

28. The transmitting agent conditions the nature of the transformation.

29. One reaches the ocean of values not by imitating or living the values of others but by creating his own values on progressively higher levels.

30. Expansion of consciousness occurs after crisis and high level tensions if one is in the Light.

31. The things that we possess by force are the things that we will lose in pain and suffering.

32. Knowledge is like acid. It burns its surroundings unless it is in the cup of Love.

33. The power to possess and dominate is a sign of bankruptcy of essence and preparation for Karmic retribution.

34. The law of life demands that you do your best in whatever you are doing. The will to do your best must be ever progressive.

35. The ultimate goal of thinking is to understand the law behind the Universe.

36. Good relations with God cannot be achieved without having a good relation with his children.

37. Never trust people who hate their father and mother.

38. Never give responsibilities to those who avoid their responsibilities toward their parents, husband, wife or children.

39. Never promote people to more responsible jobs who are not interested in your vision but are interested in your money and body.

40. When you prove a treason, do not ever give another chance to a traitor.

41. People who do not look you in the eye when they talk are suffering from hidden guilt.

42. The best way to lose your friends is to lie to them.

43. When you see your friend present at your parties but absent when you are loaded with labor, have no faith in him.

44. Try to select your co-workers from those who have had harmonious homes and striving parents.

45. Especially watch those who have no control over their mouth.

46. Do not give advanced teaching to those who are persons of interest or who are racists.

- Torkom Saraydarian.

Friday, November 19, 2010

Three methods for working with Chaos

The main point of these methods is to dissolve the dualistic struggle. Our habitual tendency to struggle against what’s happening to us or in us. These methods instruct us to move toward difficulties rather than back away. We don’t get this kind of encouragement very often.

There are three traditional methods for relating directly with difficult circumstances as a path of awakening and joy 

              1. the first method we’ll call NO MORE STRUGGLE. 
              2. the second, USING POISON AS MEDICINE. 

These are three techniques for working with chaos, difficulties , and unwanted events in our daily lives.
The first method, NO MORE STRUGGLE. 

When we sit down to meditate, whatever arises in our minds we look directly, call it “thinking”, and go back to the simplicity and immediacy of the breath. MEDITATION PRACTICE IS HOW WE STOP FIGHTING WITH OURSELVES, HOW WE STOP STRUGGLING WITH CIRCUMSTANCES, EMOTIONS, OR MOODS. Whatever arises, we can look at it with a nonjudgemental attitude.

Whatever or whoever arises, train again and again in looking at it and seeing it for what 0it is without calling it names, without hurling rocks, without averting your eyes. Let all these stories go. THE INNERMOST ESSENCE OF MIND IS WITHOUT BIAS. Things arise and things dissolve forever and ever. That’s just the way it is. We can stop struggling with what occurs and see its true face without calling it the enemy. Stop struggle and relax .

The second method. POISON AS MEDICINE. 

The three poisons are passion(craving or addiction), aggression and ignorance(denial, shut down and close out). When suffering arises , let the story line go and BREATHE IT IN ---- not jus the anger , resentment , or loneliness that we might be feeling, but the identical pain of others who in this very moment are also feeling rage , bitterness , or isolation.

WE BREATHE IN IT FOR EVERYBODY. This poison is not just our personal misfortune, our fault, our blemish, our shame--- its part of our the human condition.

Instead of pushing it away or running from it, we breathe in and connect with it fully. We do this with the wish that all of us could be free of suffering. Then we breathe out, sending out a sense of big space, a sense of ventilation and freshness.


Application: as one lojong slogan says” when the world is filled with evil , all mishaps, all difficulties, should be transformed into the path of enlightenment.” Thts the notion engendered here.


We can regard ourselves as already awake; we can regard our world as already sacred. The third method for working with chaos is to regard whatever arises as the manifestation of awakened energy.

Regarding what arises as awakened energy reverses our fundamental habitual pattern of trying to avoid conflict, trying to make ourselves better than we are , trying to smooth things out and pretty them up, trying to prove that pain is a mistake and would not exist in our lives if only we did all the right things. this view turns that particular pattern completely around, encouraging us to become interested in looking at the charnel ground of our lives as the working basis for attaining enlightenment.

Chaos is part of our home ground. Instead of looking for something higher or purer, work with it just as it is. The chaos in here and the chaos out there--- this is basic energy, the play of wisdom. Whether we regard our situation as heaven or as hell depends on our perception.

- Torkom Saraydarian.

Thursday, November 11, 2010

The Importance of Speech

A great one once said that if a person can control his speech, he can reach perfection.

Sound is a creative energy. It creates, destroys, and make things progress, unfold, or disintegrate. When we speak, our sound affects our seven etheric centers. The effects depend upon the motive behind our words, on the level of consciousness we have at the time of speech, and on the accuracy, purity, and sincerity of our speech.

Each time we speak, we send out sound through one of our etheric, astral or mental centers. Every word is related to some center and carries the substance of that center into the aura and into space.

The more you are your self, the more value and credit your words have. The more you are identified with your not-self the less value your words have. The factor that makes your words credible and effective is your true self, which should be your source of speech.

There are seven categories of speech.

1. Inspired speech
2. Controlled speech
3. Fabricated speech
4. Mechanical speech
5. Hypnotized speech
6. Slanderous speech
7. Malicious speech 

Brings to you reality, direction, clarity, beauty, visions, and revelation. Higher forces guide you through such speech. They illuminate you, bringing to you the ideas and visions of the higher world

Whenever you hear inspired speech, your inner mechanism begins to adjust itself, correct itself, and balance itself. Inspired speech brings construction in your environment, in you r body, and in your psychological system. Inspired speech uplifts you, which means it raises your focus of consciousness from your lower centers to higher ones.

Is speech which you use after seriously thinking about what to speak. This kind of speech is almost impossible for average people. They open their mouths and words jump out right and left.

Planned, controlled speech is balanced speech. The consequences of your words are seen. The results are felt. Controlled speech considers the time element. It chooses the right time, the right person, the right moment of the day. A person who uses thoughtful speech does not throw words like popcorn but measure them and control their flow.

Controlled speech is not the result of excitement, anger, fear, hatred, revenge… Thoughtful speech is up-to date speech.Thoughtful speech is planned speech. Aperson with thoughtful speech knows how to start, how to continue, and how to end, raising In the minds of others a well planned construction.

FABRICATED SPEECH is full of lies, self – interest, hatred and imagination. It is separative and destructive.

Fabricated speech originates from separative interests. It misleads people and creates confusion, misunderstandings, and cleavages. It creates darkness.

MECHANICAL SPEECH: In this stage , the person acts like a machine. It is his urges or drives that control his speech it is his negative emotions and glamors that control his words. It is his illusions, vanities, and habits that control his mouth. It is in this stage that one exposes oneself to obsession.

HYPNOTIZED SPEECH or speech under the influence of hypnotism. Many people in the world talk under hypnosis, and they really do not know what they are speaking about. People are hypnotized through pain, throough excessive pleasure , through fear. In all these conditions, the tape recording machine in the brain records all conversations going on around them, and this continues life after life.

SLANDEROUS SPEECH is harmful and destructive, and it leads to obsession. Every slanderer gradually opens his gates to entitie, which obsess him and use him for destructive ends.

MALICIOUS SPEECH brings into the world the influence of dark force, which eventually possess the person and use him as a polluting agent in the world.


1. Think before you speak,
2. Speak only if it is necessary
3. Your speech must always be guarded by beauty, goodness, justice, joy and freedom.
4. Try to speak only the essential.
5. Exercise mental silence.


1. To impart knowledge
2. To impart information
3. To give orders
4. To reveal needs
5. To release accumulated tensions of glamors, illusions,vanity, and ego.
6. To entertain oneself or others.
7. To deceive oneself and others
8. To reveal and manifest ones true self.
9. To evoke the true self in others.

The more you are your self, the more value and credit your words have. the more you are identified with your not-self the less value your words have. the factor that makes your words credible and effective is your true self, which should be your source of speech.

- Torkom Saraydarian.

Tuesday, November 9, 2010

Spiritual Saturation ???

The spiritual life is a tension between two polarities. One pole is the spiritual sphere; the other pole is the earthly sphere. One pole evokes an ever-progressive urge; the other pole draws man toward darkness and materialism. Man stands between these two poles. Either the magnet of the spiritual pole pulls him up toward greater and greater values, towards transformation and transfiguration, or the pole of the earthly life pulls him down toward degeneration and death.

The average person is subject to these opposite polarities. Sometimes he is drawn to the light, sometimes to the darkness. Certain people go in only one direction. They either immerse themselves in matter, or the renounce the world as many as they can. Disciples and advanced human beings try to bring these two opposites together and create a harmony between them.

Those who are more advanced transform the earthly life and enable light, love, ad beauty to manifest through matter, through what we call life in general. Thus material life helps to express the beauty of the spirit.

People cyclically follow one path or the other. Upon both paths, they confront hindrances and difficulties and try to overcome them. Gradually they learn that a material problem or difficulty is better solved with a spiritual attainment, and that a spiritual attainment is better manifested through the mastery of matter and personality.

Those who try to advance on the spiritual path and in the meantime live a normal life often confront a situation which is called “spiritual saturation.”

Spiritual saturation has many signs:

1.Spiritual saturation leads to crystallization of reasoning, to dogmas and doctrines, and finally to fanaticism. Fanaticism is a point of crisis in which one turns in the direction just opposite from his former beliefs.

2. A person who is spiritually saturated loses his interest in self-perfection.

3. One of the most dangerous weeds is vanity. Those who fall into spiritual saturation do not have protection against this weed.

4. The person loses his interest in meditation, study, and learning. This is a very slippery path; once you step on it, you can fall to the bottom of the hill.

5. A spiritually saturated person slowly turns his back on his creative labor.
6. Those who are in the process of saturation lose their joy of life.They lose the joy of striving and achievement.

7. Another sign of saturation is that the person withdraws into the cave of his self-interests. Spiritual saturation creates ego, and you try to use all that exists for your ego.

8.The next sign of saturation is that the person becomes indifferent toward spiritual values.

9.The next sign of spiritual saturation is characterized by confusion, inertia, apathy, and heavy depression.It is observed that such people end up in suicide or in individual or massive destructions. This is why people must not be encouraged to enter advanced spiritual disciplines until they prove that no future seeds of failure remain in their hearts; until they prove that their minds are stable, firm and healthy; until they prove that their bodies are purified enough to carry the increasing heat of the spiritual fire.

What are the causes of saturation ?

1. That first cause of saturation is a harmful life. If you cause harm to other people or to animals and trees, it accumulates and causes petrification in your system.

2. The second cause of saturation is lack or failure of actualization. When you cannot live the Teaching in your daily life, you become an obstacle for the Teaching.

3. Saturation begins when one does not engage himself in a creative labor which gives expression to the assimilated Teaching.

4. Another cause of saturation is lack of service. Learning, accumulating knowledge, meditation, study.

5. The next cause of saturation is greed. Greed keeps a person so occupied with matter that he has no time left for spiritual labor. Greed violates spiritual labor.

6. The next cause of saturation is mental confusion. Some people read every kind of book to satisfy their intellectual interest, but soon you see them dumping both their good and bad books into the trash.

7. The next cause of saturation is your karma. Your karma decides the high-water mark of your evolution. People sometimes do not understand why they slowed down on the spiritual path.

8. Saturation occurs when a person is involved in prolonged worrying. Worry is the absence of faith, hope, and future.

9. Saturation occurs when our foundation is weak, or if we have no foundation at all. Association with the wrong people creates saturation. Mental pollution stops your progress and creates saturation. Saturation never affects people who fight for great values.

How to overcome spiritual saturation?

1. Once a week give your body and mind to total rest in Nature. Once a year have a seven-day isolation in Nature, without tape recorder, television, radio.

2. Think often about a victorious, beautiful future for yourself in coming lives. Do not give up when difficult times arrive.

3. Study the science of cause and effect in your daily life, in national and international life. Develop keen observation and watchfulness and see how things are originated and what are their results.

4.Retiscence and solitude can give your nature a chance to regenerate itself.Holding your mouth from unnecessary speech and idle talk saves energy, which can be used to regenerate your nature.

5. Daily visualize whom you can serve and help, and then try to do it as much as possible. Daily do a short meditation.

6. Visit art galleries, attend great musical or dance performances, listen to inspiring lecturers.

7. Engage yourself in some creative work. Have a plan and work for it.

8. The most effective means to overcome spiritual saturation or to prevent it forever is to make real efforts to raise the quality of your daily life, to raise the quality of your life as a whole by raising the quality of your every action, word, labor, and thought.

9. Every time you take the side of the observer, you can prevent saturation– which is a personality problem and not the problem of the soul,because the soul never falls into saturation.The more you raise your quality,the closer you come to higher,subjective influences.

- Torkom Saraydarian.

Redefine Yourself Today

The best way to prepare yourself to encounter spirit is to learn to be willing to redefine yourself every day.

Write down the most basic labels that apply to you: Name, age, gender, education level and occupation. Taking one at a time, consider how each label defines you.

For example: Your name specifies the identity of a person with a certain family background. It locates you in time and space, isolates you from others and it becomes part of your self-image. You are attached, to varying degrees, to all these threads of identity.

Now, consider whether these connections must apply. Do you feel a need to conform to family traditions and expectations? Is it important to you that your name earns recognition? As you ask some basic questions, you can begin to free yourself from the threads of attachment that keep you from being “born from above.”

Now you can take steps to redefine yourself. If you spot yourself thinking in a certain way because it is appropriate to your age, education level, gender or social status, ask yourself if there are other ways to think. If you open yourself, you will be amazed at how thoroughly you have been defined by rigid beliefs and outdated conditioning. These external influences aren’t the real you, and until you go through the process of detaching yourself from old definitions, you cannot confront the unknown.

Everything new that comes your way winds up passing through a filtering process until it fits your likes and dislikes, social status, income, education level and so on.

Spiritual experience is unfiltered; it comes directly and spontaneously.

Saturday, November 6, 2010

From Fear to Fearlessness

In modern life we are taught to respect fear as an essential contributor to our survival, a biological signal that alerts mind and body to approaching danger. But the ancient sages of India taught that fear was born of duality; when human beings realized that they were no longer part of God, they immediately became afraid of what might happen to them.

In the 20th century, after two devastating world wars and the advent of the atomic bomb, this haunting insecurity was promoted into an inescapable fact of life, which came to be known as existential anxiety. You and I are children of an era when simply to be alive seemed to be taking the ultimate risk. As a result, we fall prey to anxiety about who we are and where we belong.

On the spiritual path you can completely recover from such anxiety. By rejecting fear a little at a time, you come to realize that life isn’t constantly at risk. You are safe, you are seen, and you are cared for.

Moving from fear to fearlessness requires a shift in orientation because we live in a climate of fear, where it’s all too easy to succumb to a constant barrage of potential threats. To counter this, you must look to your own inner guidance. Realize that what makes you safe is a higher intelligence that resides within you. Potential dangers are illusions. Only what lies at hand is real.

Eight Worldly Dharmas

The Eight Worldly Dharmas are:

Getting what you want, and avoiding getting what you do not want 

Wanting (instant) happiness, and not wanting unhappiness 
Wanting fame, and not wanting to be unknown 
Wanting praise, and not wanting blame.

One of the classic Buddhist teachings on hope and fear concerns what are known as the eight worldly dharmas. These are four pairs of opposites--- four things that we like and become attached to and four things we don’t like and try to avoid.

First, we like pleasure; we are attached to it. Conversely, we don’t like pain. Second, we like are attached to praise. We try to avoid criticism and blame. Third, we like and are attached to fame. We dislike and try to avoid disgrace. Finally w are attached to gain, to getting what we want. We don’t like losing what we have.

According to this very simple teaching, becoming immersed in these four pairs of opposites ----- pleasure and pain, loss and gain, fame and disgrace, and praise and blame – is what keeps us stuck in the pain of samsara.

- Buddha.

Sunday, October 31, 2010

Progress of the Soul

A great sage once gave an instruction showing how a new age spiritual seeker is created. He said: The degrees of attainment are:

Alarmed consciousness
Inquiring consciousness
Knocking consciousness
Hearkening consciousness
Reminiscing consciousness
Transmitting consciousness
Sword carrier consciousness
Puissant consciousness
Lamp of the desert consciousness
Lion of the desert consciousness
Co-worker of the creative principles creator consciousness

One must graduate through these eleven stages in order to become a seeker.


The first stage is the stage of a person which is called ALARMED. This is an esoteric word which means a man is suddenly awakened to a situation and confronts a decision. He has received a warning from his soul, from his body , from his circumstances of life. He is horrified by some information, by some facts. He was horrified by a dream or by an experience and now he is uneasy.

One must be “alarmed” in order to find the path. No one enters the path without being alarmed. Alarm is the moment when the soul reaches the stage where his eyes are opened and he sees his situation clearly. He sees his karma, his slavery, the forces of materialism and darkness, and the danger of annihilation and destruction.


The second is the stage of INQUIRY. The traveler begins to search for solutions; he wants to protect and free himself and those who are closely related to him…. He searches in religion, in education, and in philosophy to find ways and means to free himself from his state of alarm. He visits teachers, read books, listens to lectures, and eventually reaches the conclusion that the secret of all these teachings is hidden somewhere within him. This leads him to the next stage.


The stage of KNOCKING. Knocking means to gather all your physical, emotional, and mental aspirations into a focus and try to initiate yourself into a new state of consciousness where you will substantiate all that you have learned and dreamed. In this state you knock on the door of your inner guide. you do this by 

a. Asking questions
b. Thinking
c. Meditating
d. Uplifting your heart and expanding your consciousness
e. Cultivating virtues
f. Transforming your life
g. Committing yourself to service
h. Clear observation
i. Exercising severe discipline of speech.

It is through such means that you invoke await evocation; you await an answer from the inner lord. Instead of being a man of ideas, dreams, and theories, you become a man of experience. Knocking leads you into experience.


You prepare yourself for the next stage which is called HEARKENING. Hearkening is the stage when you are ready to load yourself with great responsibilities and tasks. You are ready to submit yourself to sacrificial service.

The way to hearken is to close your ears to all those voices, which speak about self- interest, vanity, pride, separatism, and greed.

Hearkening convinces you that you are not alone on the path and the guides of life are watching your steps to the mountaintop.

Hearkening is the stage where you come to the conclusion that you must live the things you believe.


The next stage is REMINISCENCE. This is the stage in which the striving one remembers all his past; past lives slowly unfold themselves , giving him special understanding about his present and future life. This remembrance also clears u many factors hidden in his relationships with his family. Co-workers and those people who created problems for him. This stage is a clearing stage where, for the first time, the striving one knows why things happened to him the way they happened.


The next stage is called TRANSMITTING. It is after reminiscence that the striving one becomes a pure transmitter of wisdom. He becomes a teacher who knows how to bring down the ideas and the visions from the subjective world, from the higher realms, and formulate them adequately and pass them on to the people of the world. He not only transmits wisdom but also energy: a real transmitter inspires trust, confidence, and faith. People find the direction of their life when they meet transmitters who not only receive the teaching as it is but also transmit the teaching without distorting it through glamors, illusions, and blind urges.


The next stage is called the SWORD CARRIER. Traditionally, this has three levels; On the first level, the striving one carries the sword of a Great One. On the next level, the striving one carries his own sword to protect the Great One. On the third level, the striving one carries his own sword for himself. 

The sword is the symbol of:
a. Pure discrimination
b. Power, might
c. Psychic energy
d. Fiery will
e. Law
f. Order
g. Fiery Words

The sword carrier is one who is ready for sacrificial acts and is ready to carry on the command given to him by greater Centers.He is totally committed to the service and liberation of humanity. He is on the field of battle, and he is one who will never give up.


The next step is called PUISSANT. The striving one, through his fearlessness, commitment, and sacrificial life becomes a tower of strength and power. His words, his acts, and his thoughts express power. He has power over his personality and over the forces and energies of nature. He uses all his might and power for the progress and liberation of all living Sparks in any form. He radiates the fire of will. However, he is extremely cautious to use his power only to further the Purpose of the Planetary Logos.


The next state of attainment is called the LAMP OF THE DESERT. The desert symbolizes a state of consciousness which is aimless, goalless, fruitless, monotonous, meaningless, flat, isolated; a great vacuum, and emptiness. Those who live a meaningless life which has no purpose or plan, a life in which they are lost and do not have any direction live in a desert. It is such a life that presents the greatest temptation to those who, in the future, are going to be great co-workers.

The lamp of the desert is now a Teacher who brings meaning, beauty, growth, and life into the deserts of life. He gives vision and inspiration to those who were lost in the desert of a meaningless life. His life shines as a lamp in the darkness. His light gives direction and fills people with the sparks of purpose.
Sometimes people live in a “desert consciousness”: when the doctor tells them that they have only a few weeks to live; when they lose a beloved Teacher or a family member or a friend; if suddenly they lose the things that they obtained with great labor, fear, and suffering; if they suddenly realize their worthlessness. Then life appears to them as a waste, as an empty, burning desert.

When you become a lamp of the desert, you begin to see new values in life. You see a great purpose behind your pains, behind your suffering and losses. You bring joy into life; you encourage people; you create striving; and you radiate your beauty as a service to others.

Because of your existence as a light, people find their direction toward their own spiritual destination. The desert blooms in your light because everything receives a meaning, a significance, a purpose.

Are we lights in the desert of crime, violence, deceit, hypocrisy, exploitation, greed, fear, and hatred?

He radiates the fire of will. However, he is extremely cautious to use his power only to further the Purpose of the Planetary Logos.


When you have proven that you are a light in the desert, a lamp of the desert, you then pass to the next stage of evolution, which is called the LION OF THE DESERT. The lion is the symbol of power, protection, steadiness, endurance, beauty, victory, daring, courage, and fearlessness. The lion of the desert is subdivided into three degrees: the first degree is composed of those who make a breakthrough out of crystallization and fanaticism in any department of human endeavor. For example, Blavatsky was one of them. She attacked the merchants of materialism who were working the field of science. She attacked the merchants of fanaticism who were working in the desert of religion. She made it possible for daring ones to expand the walls of science to Space and opened a new understanding between religious traditions and the mythologies of all nations. In the field of art and beauty, another great lion of the desert was Nicholas Roerich.

On the second level, we have great religious leaders.

On the third level, we have Buddha and Christ, Who were each actually called the Lion of the Desert.

Lions of the desert attack and try to annihilate all barriers that stand on the path of human progress.

They are fearless ones because they know that they are not bodies but living principles, living ideas; Beauty, Goodness, Righteousness, Joy, and Freedom. And because a lion of the desert knows that he is an embodiment of such principles, he is fearless and he is powerful. Fearlessness and power do not belong to you when you create slaves around you, when you exploit people, when you mislead people, and when you try to kill their soul and conscience. Fearlessness and power do not come to you when your life department is dependent on your possessions, positions, titles, lies, deceits, fanaticism, and separatism. All these make you a coward, a weak person.
Fearlessness and power are the virtues of those people who make themselves the embodiments of great principles, great, and great ideas.

When you read the lives of great lions of the desert, you see how fearless they were because they were fused with a divine principle. People could kill their bodies but never their visions and ideas; people could even distort and misrepresent their ideas and thus give them a second blow of death, but they could not touch their visions, the image they had imprinted in the souls of people.


Lions of the desert are protectors of the human race as a whole. When you reach such a state of consciousness, you graduate into the next stage and you become a CO-WORKER OF THE CREATIVE PRINCIPLES, A CREATOR. You are now ready to cooperate with the creative principles of the Universe and become a creator.

The creative principles are contacted through the Hierarchy, through Shamballa, through the Zodiacal Lives, through the Lives of the Greater Zodiac, through the Lords of the Rays, through the Heart of the Spiritual Sun, through the Central Spiritual Sun. One becomes a greater co-worker of these seven Centers Who Embody the seven principles of the seven paths of the Purpose of the Life in which all existence moves, lives, and has its being. The co-worker is now a conscious part of Life and cooperates with Life in Its creative efforts.

Can you imagine yourself cooperating with your Inner Guide and becoming Its co-worker? Can you imagine yourself cooperating with Great Ones in the Plan of Hierarchy? Can you imagine yourself cooperating with the Lives Who are active in Shamballa? Can you imagine yourself being in contact and a close co-worker with higher forces and Existences? What a glorious being is a co-worker. Instead of building our sand castles, or karmic prisons on our path, we can prepare ourselves to be co-workers of the creative Principles of Life.

A co-worker will never violate the principles for which he stands, neither through his acts, not through his thoughts; neither through his words, nor with his motives. The gates of Hierarchy can open only to co-workers.

Transformation and expansion of consciousness take place:

a. When one realizes his errors and really feels sorry about them.
b. When one is ready to pay for the damage he did.
c. When one is ready to see how his mistakes and errors can produce a new generation of errors and how they can prevent his progress on the Path. Rationalization and self-justifications are the path
which leads into the pit of self-deception.
d. When one is able to see a higher vision, the true destination of his soul, and make a firm commitment to stay in the light of his Higher Self.

You Are A Contributor

We are consumers by every breath that we take in and We are contributors by every breath we release out. We consume all the basic necessities of life and luxuries that are available. We consume love and attention, through other people in our relationships. We also consume the gifts of nature (beauty, elegance, wonder, magic). In order for us to consume, the entire universe has to work for us. Universe organizes everything for our consumption. We are also gifted with five senses and mind to consume and have enriching experiences of life. If you take a moment to reflect, you will be surprised to see how much we consume and how the universe orchestrates everything for us.

Whether you are aware or not, through your thoughts, choices, speech and action you are also contributing back to the universe. Imagine what kind of world you can create, if you are consciously contributing through your choices and actions. We are not born here to live for few years and drag our life until death. We are born here to participate in life and co-create along with universe. However many of us spend our time either struggling for survival - fulfilling basic needs or we are ambitious seeking approval, power and security.

Our contribution does not have to be in the form of money or material things. Although giving money and material things would surely help the needy. We can contribute by spending time, to listen to others in our relationships wholeheartedly. We can be aware of how our choices and actions can have an impact on others and make choices that are harmonious. One of the spiritual practices in yoga tradition is to master your speech (Vak Tapas). We can cause lot of hurt and pain to others through our speech intentionally or unintentionally. We can use our speech to heal others through our words and conversations. Instead of being critical, judgmental and pulling others down, we can be appreciative of others. We can encourage, support, inspire others through our speech. We are also gifted with unique talents. We can use those talents to contribute back to the world.

We don't have to be a Bill gates or Warren Buffet to contribute. Even if you are a home maker, you can support your spouse or your children's through your conscious choices and actions. There have been many people who have contributed to my life along the way; not through their money, but just through their presence in my life. My teachers at school, professors at college, friends, relatives, co-workers, community members, spiritual masters and book authors all have helped me in some ways to open my eyes, so I can enjoy the beauty of life.
Conscious contribution opens your heart, brings more joy, happiness. When you start giving you can experience a sense of freedom. Keep circulating the energy of love and appreciation, through your giving and receiving. All that is needed is to be alert, aware and mindful. We can make a difference in this world through our presence.


  1. APPRECIATE YOUR EXPERIENCES, but don’t try to own them.
  2. Avoid thinking of the paths as “my” paths.
  3. Let things come and go without attachment.
  4. Don’t pretend to be more positive than you actually feel.
  5. Don’t exaggerate your experiences, to yourself or others.
  6. Don’t allow your experiences to set you apart from or above anyone else.
  7. Don’t be tempted to think you are a saint.

Monday, October 25, 2010

Spiritual Partnership Guidelines


  • Focus on what I can learn about myself all the time, especially from my reactions (such as anger, fear, jealousy, resentment, and impatience), instead of judging or blaming others or myself.
  • Pay attention to my emotions by feeling the physical sensations in my energy centers (such as my chest, solar plexus, and throat areas).
  • Pay attention to my thoughts (such as judging, analyzing, comparing, daydreaming, planning my reply, etc., or thoughts of gratitude, appreciation, contentment, openness to Life, etc.).
  • Pay attention to my intention (such as blaming, judging, needing to be right, seeking admiration, escaping into thoughts (intellectualizing), trying to convince, etc., or cooperating, sharing, creating harmony, and revering Life).

  • Take responsibility for my feelings, experiences, and actions (no blaming).
  • Practice integrity at all times (often requires action, such as speaking when frightened parts of my personality don’t want to speak and not speaking when they feel compelled to speak).
  • Say or do what is most difficult (sharing what I notice, if appropriate, when someone speaks or acts from a frightened part of his or her personality; sharing about myself what I am frightened to say and know what I need to say).

  • Change my perspective from fearful to loving (choose to see myself and others in a loving or appreciative way.
  • Release any distance I feel from anyone.
  • Be present while others are speaking (not preparing replies, judging, etc.).


  • Consult my intuition.
  • Choose my intention before I speak or act.
  • Act from the healthiest part of my personality that I can access (rather than caretaking, fixing, teaching, judging, blaming, gossiping, etc.).
  • Speak personally and specifically rather than generally and abstractly (use “I” statements rather than “we” or “you” statements).
 Release attachment to the outcome (trust the Universe). If I find myself attached, begin again with
Commitment, Courage, and Compassion.

And remember to enjoy yourself!

- Gary Zukav