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Thursday, September 13, 2012

Defeat or Victory

There are circuits in our mind which act as programmings and control our actions, words, and even thoughts. Some or these circuits are success-oriented. When they begin to be active due to certain causes, man enters the path of success and even attracts those individuals, events, and objects which guarantee his success.

There are also failure circuits, which unexpectedly begin acting in the midst of our path of success and slowly break our speed and introduce into our life failure factors in our speech, relationships, actions, feelings, and thoughts. Once these circuits begin to work, we feel a setback; things become complicated; problems increase; and we arrive at a state where two circuits in us carry on a strong conflict.

If a failure circuit is fed by failure impressions, we will fail. If both circuits are fed equally, we will struggle and go through a time of distress, conflict, and dissatisfaction. Usually, if the failure circuit reaches forty-five percent, failure is inevitable except if some positive interference takes place.

These failure circuits are formed by witnessing, hearing, listening to, or. reading about failure events, by having affairs with those who failed in their livesf or by accepting the attacks of dark forces, which usually try to impress failure images in our minds.

Positive circuits are formed in our auras because of success images, reading about successful people, relating with successful people, or using our creative imagination and visualization to create successful images and thoughtforms.

It is very important to reject any suggestions, stories, or thoughts of failure images. Seeds are very small forms, but soon they grow into big plants or trees.

There are several effective ways to fight against failure circuits:

1. Observe your thoughts, words, feelings, and actions and stop them if they are feeding the failure circuits. It is probable that such thoughts, words, and feelings sneak in through expressions such as

— I was right.
— He insulted me.
— It is his habit.
— I want to correct him.
— It doesn't matter.
— I can sometimes take it easy.
— I don't want to be under such pressure.
— It is too much.
— I need relaxation.

The worst attacks are those which use your self-justification and latent weaknesses or your jealousy or ego.

2. The second way to fight against failure circuits is to use your creative imagination and visualization and daily build thoughtforms of success, even using your temporary failures as moments of opportunity to put yourself on the path of success.

3. The third way is to develop a "habit" of gratitude and joy for each of your successes.

In using these methods, you will repulse most of your failure images and prevent the failure circuits from starting to function.

The same is true for our health. The cause of most of our health problems is the activation of negative circuits built over many lives. There are health circuits which are amazingly strong if they are fed by positive suggestions, trust, and hope.

Thursday, September 6, 2012

The Principles of Spiritual Psychology

1. We are not human beings with souls; we are souls having a human experience.

2. The nature of god is love!

3. Direct experience is the process through which belief or faith is transformed into knowing.

4. Since we are all part of god, our nature also is love, and we have the opportunity to know our loving nature experientially, here and now!

5. Physical world reality exists for the purpose of spiritual evolution.

6. Spiritual evolution (growth) is a process, not an event.

7. All of life is for learning.

8. An unresolved issue is anything that disturbs your peace.

9. Every time a single person resolves a single issue, angels rejoice and all humanity moves forward in its evolution.

10. All “becauses” are merely triggers to internal unresolved issues inviting completion.

11. Inner disturbances are themselves a major component of the spiritual curriculum you are here to complete.

12. Unresolved issues are not bad; they are just part of your spiritual curriculum and are an opportunity for healing.

13. Personal responsibility is the foundational key that opens the door to freedom.

14. Nothing outside of you causes your hindrances.

15. You create your future by how you respond to experiences now.

16. How you relate to an issue is the issue, and how you relate to yourself while you go through an issue is an issue.

17. What you believe determines your experience.

18. A life filled with acceptance is a life devoid of unnecessary emotional suffering. It’s a life filled with love.

19. Your primary goal is not to change the school; your primary goal is to graduate.

20. Healing is the application of loving to the places inside that hurt.

21. Loving, healing, and evolving are all same process.

22. Judgment is self condemnation. Self forgiveness is redemption; and compassion, acceptance, peace, and joy naturally follow.

Intellect and intuition

Intellect has the capacity to formulate, to appropriate and meet a need. The intellect gathers together all the elements and parts for a building, but it is the intuition that brings them together into a unified structure.

Intuition sees the future; intellect appropriates the future to the needs of the present. We need both of them; without intellect the intuition remains as a vision without any practical effect.

Intuition is the ability to see things from the viewpoint of the whole and in relation to all – not from the viewpoints of the parts , but in relation to the parts.

Some people think that intuition is a feeling, and this feeling is greater than intellect. This is not true.

You cannot create electricity through your feelings ; you cannot build a computer through your feelings . intellect is needed whether you have feelings or not.

Intellect transmits and translates the revelations of the intuition.

Intellect observes; intuition identifies.

Intellect explains; intuition knows.

Intuition gives ideas; intellect formulates the thoughts.

Intuition has the ability to see things without the help of intellect, but intuition cannot relate its revelation to the need—that is the work of the intellect.

So we must say to new age children: intuition is good, but intellect is necessary, and feeling is not enough. We must urge them to finish their education and get a degree, then work out their vision in practical and realistic ways.

Wednesday, August 8, 2012

How to deal with Criticism well: 25 reasons to embrace it

“Criticism is something you can easily avoid by saying nothing, doing nothing, and being nothing.” ~Aristotle 

At the end of the day, when I feel completely exhausted, oftentimes it has nothing to do with all the things I’ve done.

It’s not a consequence of juggling multiple responsibilities and projects. It’s not my body’s way of punishing me for becoming a late-life jogger after a period of cardiovascular laziness. It’s not even about getting too little sleep.

When I’m exhausted, you can be sure I’ve bent over backwards trying to win everyone’s approval. I’ve obsessed over what people think of me, I’ve assigned speculative and usually inaccurate meanings to feedback I’ve received, and I’ve lost myself in negative thoughts about criticism and its merit.

I work at minimizing this type of behavior—and I’ve had success for the most part—but admittedly it’s not easy.

I remember back in college, taking a summer acting class, when I actually made the people around me uncomfortable with my defensiveness. This one time, the teacher was giving me feedback after a scene in front of the whole class. She couldn’t get through a single sentence without me offering some type of argument.

After a couple minutes of verbal sparring, one of my peers actually said, “Stop talking. You’re embarrassing yourself.”

Looking back, I cut myself a little slack. You’re vulnerable in the spotlight and the student’s reaction was kind of harsh. But I know I needed to hear it. Because I was desperately afraid of being judged, I took everything, from everyone as condemnation.

I realize criticism doesn’t always come gently from someone legitimately trying to help. A lot of the feedback we receive is unsolicited and doesn’t come from teachers—or maybe all of it does.

We can’t control what other people will say to us, whether they’ll approve or form opinions and share them. But we can control how we internalize it, respond to it, and learn from it, and when we release it and move on.

If you’ve been having a hard time dealing with criticism lately, it may help to remember the following:

The Benefits of Criticism:

Personal Growth: 

1. Looking for seeds of truth in criticism encourages humility. It’s not easy to take an honest look at yourself and your weaknesses, but you can only grow if you’re willing to try.

2. Learning from criticism allows you to improve. Almost every critique gives you a tool to more effectively create the tomorrow you visualize.

3. Criticism opens you up to new perspectives and new ideas you may not have considered. Whenever someone challenges you, they help expand your thinking.

4. Your critics give you an opportunity to practice active listening. This means you resist the urge to analyze in your head, planning your rebuttal, and simply consider what the other person is saying.

5. You have the chance to practice forgiveness when you come up against harsh critics. Most of us carry around stress and frustration that we unintentionally misdirect from time to time.

Emotional Benefits: 

6. It’s helpful to learn how to sit with the discomfort of an initial emotional reaction instead of immediately acting or retaliating. All too often we want to do something with our feelings—generally not a great idea!

7. Criticism gives you the chance to foster problem solving skills, which isn’t always easy when you’re feeling sensitive, self-critical, or annoyed with your critic.

8. Receiving criticism that hits a sensitive spot helps you explore unresolved issues.Maybe you’re sensitive about your intelligence because you’re holding onto something someone said to you years ago—something you need to release.

9. Interpreting someone else’s feedback is an opportunity for rational thinking—sometimes, despite a negative tone, criticism is incredibly useful.

10. Criticism encourages you to question your instinctive associations and feelings; praise is good, criticism is bad. If we recondition ourselves to see things in less black and white terms, there’s no stop to how far we can go!

Improved Relationships: 

11. Criticism presents an opportunity to choose peace over conflict. Oftentimes, when criticized our instinct is to fight, creating unnecessary drama. The people around us generally want to help us, not judge us.

12. Fielding criticism well helps you mitigate the need to be right. Nothing closes an open mind like ego—bad for your personal growth, and damaging for relationships.

13. Your critics give you an opportunity to challenge any people-pleasing tendencies.Relationships based on a constant need for approval can be draining for everyone involved. It’s liberating to let people think whatever they want—they’re going to do it anyway.

14. Criticism gives you the chance to teach people how to treat you. If someone delivers it poorly, you can take this opportunity to tell them, “I think you make some valid points, but I would receive them better if you didn’t raise your voice.”

15. Certain pieces of criticism teach you not to sweat the small stuff. In the grand scheme of things, it doesn’t matter that your boyfriend thinks you load the dishwasher “wrong.”

Time Efficiency: 

16. The more time you spend dwelling about what someone said, the less time you have to do something with it.

17. If you improve how you operate after receiving criticism, this will save time and energy in the future. When you think about from that perspective—criticism as a time saver—it’s hard not to appreciate it!

18. Fostering the ability to let go of your feelings and thoughts about being critiqued can help you let go in other areas of your life. Letting go of worries, regrets, stresses, fears, and even positive feelings helps you root yourself in the present moment. Mindfulness is always the most efficient use of time.

19. Criticism reinforces the power of personal space. Taking 10 minutes to process your emotions, perhaps by writing in a journal, will ensure you respond well. And responding the well the first time prevents one critical comment from dominating your day.

20. In some cases, criticism teaches you how to interact with a person, if they’re negative or hostile, for example. Knowing this can save you a lot of time and stress in the future.

Self Confidence:

21. Learning to receive false criticism—feedback that has no constructive value—without losing your confidence is a must if you want to do big things in life. The more attention your work receives, the more criticism you’ll have to field.

22. When someone criticizes you, it shines a light on your own insecurities. If you secretly agree that you’re lazy, you should get to the root of that. Why do you believe that—and what can you do about it?

23. Learning to move forward after criticism, even if you don’t feel incredibly confident, ensures no isolated comment prevents you from seizing your dreams.Think of it as separating the wheat from the chaff; takes what’s useful, leave the rest, and keep going!

24. When someone else appraises your harshly, you have an opportunity to monitor your internal self-talk. Research indicates up to 80% of our thoughts are negative. Take this opportunity to monitor and change your thought processes so you don’t drain and sabotage yourself!

25. Receiving feedback well reminds you it’s OK to have flaws—imperfection is part of being human. If you can admit weakness and work on them without getting down on yourself, you’ll experience far more happiness, peace, enjoyment, and success.

We are all perfectly imperfect, and other people may notice that from time to time. We may even notice in it each other.